small-but-spunky asked: Hey, I'm a discussion with my roommate about princesses. The main point of the argument is whether princesses (specifically Disney's) should be a realistic role model for women. She's arguing princesses encourage women to just find a prince, and never fight for themselves. So, I was wondering what your opinion on the matter is :)
The princesses do more than just get a prince charming and I am tired of people thinking that’s all they teach girls.
She says they encourage girls to never fight for themselves, but that’s a lie. Ariel, Belle, Jasmine, Pocahontas, Mulan, Tiana, Rapunzel, and Merida all fought for themselves and the people they love and none of them were looking for princes. Snow, Cinderella, and Aurora might have been more passive than the others, but they weren’t just sitting around waiting for princes either.The princesses empowered me and made me want to strive for the things I wanted. I’ve learned something valuable from every princess and I never felt like I needed a man to be happy.
There’s also nothing wrong with wanting love. Yes, we need to teach girls that a man does not make them, and that their happiness and self worth isn’t based upon finding a man, but there’s also nothing wrong with wanting to find someone to spend your life with.
I have a question, why is it okay when a male protagonist is awarded a happy ending with the love of his life, but when a female protagonist has a happy ending with the love of her life, she was just waiting for prince charming? When a male happens to fall in love during his journey, we all know that there’s more than romance to his story, but when a female falls in love during her journey, then all of a sudden romance is the only thing everyone focuses on and her story becomes only about the fact that she finds a man at the end of her movie. I hate that the only thing people seem to take from princess movies is that they got a prince. They ignore the struggles the princesses went through and they ignore the things the princesses gained.
The last time I checked, the princesses don’t spend their entire movies trying to make a prince fall in love with them. Aladdin spends the entire movie trying to get Jasmine to fall in love with him, but we all know there’s more to Aladdin than getting the princess at the end. Beast needed Belle to fall in love with him in order to break the curse. Pocahontas saved John Smith and stopped a war. Mulan saved Shang and all of China. Naveen needed a princess to kiss him to turn back human. Rapunzel sacrificed her freedom to save Flynn. Ariel saved Eric from drowning, twice. Prince Charming searched the entire kingdom for Cinderella. Merida fights her father and a bear to save her mother. I wish Frozen was already out so I could tell you what Anna and Elsa did, I can assure you they didn’t wait for prince charming to come save them. I am so tired of people saying all the princesses do and sit and wait for prince charming to come save them and whisk them away to happily ever after.
I just don’t understand how people can watch these movies and the only thing they take away from it is that the women wait for a prince charming.
This doesn’t mean that there are no issues with the princess movies, because there are, but their movies aren’t just about finding a man. There are good and bad qualities in all the princesses
(except Tiana because she’s flawless), just like everything else in life.